I think one of the conditions that puts cracks in paint is when you have several base materials in close proximity.
I often see cracks around windows, especially windows installed to an exterior joggle. No surprise, since in that area the window material, adhesive, cloth/resin, filler, primer, and paint, all reside within a few thousandths of an inch from each other. As the mix heats and cools, each material expands and contracts at a different rate, vibrates at a different frequency, flexes differently, etc. Tough duty for the paint.
One investment that seems to protect the paint from cracks is a single layer of very fine cloth (ACS P/N 1080-50) on any seams, potted areas, bodywork, joints, gaps, whatever. Then the paint only has to flex against a single, unitary base.
Regarding being able to see the weave--I eventually just started thinking of it as proof that you were dedicated to keeping it light!