<< One good exersize i found to be an eye opener is to
take the a/c to  fairly high altitude and stall it..[ do this in a certifed
spin able a/c ONLY] but don't recover immediatly..  stall the a/c and then
keep it stalled.. and keep the wings level w/ rudder..  and keep it from
spinning... I'm sure that some people will flame me for writting this because they feel
its dangerous. >>

Just the opposite.  If you can't do this then you really don't understand departed flight.  I was lucky enough to be trained by the last generation of WWII pilots one of whom was my first CFI.  I went through this scenario more than once and it was far more instructive to good rudder use than my tail dragger time.

IMHO, anyone who can prevent a Cherokee or 172 from entering a spin for over 1000' of descent post-turning-stall understands the correct use of the rudder far better than someone who only manages to "keep the ball centered" while inside the envelope.

Eric Ahlstrom