X-Virus-Scanned: clean according to Sophos on Logan.com Return-Path: Received: from EXHUB003-4.exch003intermedia.net ([207.5.74.111] verified) by logan.com (CommuniGate Pro SMTP 5.3.2) with ESMTPS id 4106189 for flyrotary@lancaironline.net; Sun, 31 Jan 2010 20:32:18 -0500 Received-SPF: none receiver=logan.com; client-ip=207.5.74.111; envelope-from=jwhaley@datacast.com Received: from EXVMBX003-5.exch003intermedia.net ([207.5.74.45]) by EXHUB003-4.exch003intermedia.net ([207.5.74.111]) with mapi; Sun, 31 Jan 2010 17:31:42 -0800 From: Jeff Whaley To: Rotary motors in aircraft Date: Sun, 31 Jan 2010 17:31:42 -0800 Subject: RE: [FlyRotary] Charlies an angel Thread-Topic: [FlyRotary] Charlies an angel Thread-Index: AcqirzONBFUtEpHwRWylt/wYuPHC3QAKlSAs Message-ID: References: In-Reply-To: Accept-Language: en-US Content-Language: en-US X-MS-Has-Attach: X-MS-TNEF-Correlator: acceptlanguage: en-US Content-Type: multipart/alternative; boundary="_000_C03ABB0A7362B84BB53D544B3C305E0E0166B9A57BDCEXVMBX0035e_" MIME-Version: 1.0 --_000_C03ABB0A7362B84BB53D544B3C305E0E0166B9A57BDCEXVMBX0035e_ Content-Type: text/plain; charset="iso-2022-jp" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable Hi Chris: I don't normally put emotional or personal emails out there either but I fe= el your grief warrants such a response. I was devasted when my dad passed away almost eight years ago; the slightes= t mention of him when I was unprepared would set me to tears. We started my= airpalne together; he was the welder I was the pipe-fitter and within 1.5 = years we had an airframe on wheels ... little did I know how many more year= s it would take before it's first flight. Dad was a civilian flight instruc= tor on evenings and weekends amassing 9000+ hours. His last flight was to = drop my hangar and take one last look at the project; all I could say was "= I just couldn't go any faster". I will always regret that he never saw it = finished and flying but I vowed to myself that day to see it through to com= pletion. An airplane project won't replace the loss of a loved one but will provide = a therapeutic focal point ... My condolences Chris; it isn't to carry on but we must. Jeff ________________________________ From: Rotary motors in aircraft [flyrotary@lancaironline.net] On Behalf Of = Chris Barber [cbarber@texasattorney.net] Sent: Sunday, January 31, 2010 2:53 PM To: Rotary motors in aircraft Subject: [FlyRotary] Charlies an angel As I have mentioned in the past, I consider you guys and gals as friends. D= ue to this, and since I spoke of him on the list in the past, I feel compel= led to share my deep grief that my three month old son, Charles "Charlie" D= avid Barber passed away Thursday. He was visiting his grandmother (since I = was a single dad, she cared for him when I worked) who discovered his lifel= ess body in his crib when she woke. It appears to be a case of SIDS. There = was no trauma and it will be weeks before the toxicology reports return. Co= nsidering how much press it gets, you would be amazed at how really low the= SIDS rate is. Its rate has been cut in half since 1980. Currently about 23= 00 deaths in 4 million annual births in the US. I did not realize this depth of sorrow was possible. I do not mean to be a = downer and I would prefer not to clog the list with a lot of condolences as= I know your thoughts are with me. I apologize to those who do not feel thi= s is the proper forum to share this, but since I spoke of him here, I would= be at a loss if someone innocently mentioned him down the road and I had n= ot shared the news. I am beside myself. The only time I got to fill out pap= erwork that I was his "father" was on his death certificate paperwork. This= has changed me and I am going to miss my son and the old me. I had so embr= aced my role as father and the word "son". He is/was my only child. Anyway, I think I may be trying to distract myself (which so far has failed= miserably) by working on my project. Kinda hard to keep the tears out of t= he epoxy. I actually didn't know I could sob. I have some questions about t= he engine...actually Tracy's PSRU, and hope I am not thought crass that I m= ay be asking some soon. It is a coping mechanism. =1B$B!!=1B(B Thank you for humoring a grieving father. =1B$B!!=1B(B All the best, =1B$B!!=1B(B Chris Barber Houston This message, and the documents attached hereto, is intended only for the a= ddressee and may contain privileged or confidential information. Any unauth= orized disclosure is strictly prohibited. If you have received this message= in error, please notify us immediately so that we may correct our internal= records. Please then delete the original message. Thank you. --_000_C03ABB0A7362B84BB53D544B3C305E0E0166B9A57BDCEXVMBX0035e_ Content-Type: text/html; charset="iso-2022-jp" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable
Hi Chri= s:
I don't normally put emot= ional or personal emails out there either but I feel your grief warrants su= ch a response.
I was devasted when my da= d passed away almost eight years ago; the slightest mention of him when I w= as unprepared would set me to tears. We started my airpalne together; he wa= s the welder I was the pipe-fitter and within 1.5 years we had an airframe on wheels ... little did I know how ma= ny more years it would take before it's first flight. Dad was a civilian fl= ight instructor on evenings and weekends amassing 9000+ hours.  Hi= s last flight was to drop my hangar and take one last look at the project; all I could say was "I just couldn't go= any faster".  I will always regret that he never saw it finished= and flying but I vowed to myself that day to see it through to completion.=
An = airplane project won't replace the loss of a loved one but w= ill provide a therapeutic focal point ...
My condolences Chris; it = isn't to carry on but we must.
Jeff
 
 
From: Rotary motor= s in aircraft [flyrotary@lancaironline.net] On Behalf Of Chris Barber [cbar= ber@texasattorney.net]
Sent: Sunday, January 31, 2010 2:53 PM
To: Rotary motors in aircraft
Subject: [FlyRotary] Charlies an angel

As I have mentioned in the past, I consider you guys and gals as friends= . Due to this, and since I spoke of him on the list in the past, I feel com= pelled to share my deep grief that my three month old son, Charles "Ch= arlie" David Barber passed away Thursday. He was visiting his grandmother (since I was a single dad, she cared for h= im when I worked) who discovered his lifeless body in his crib when she wok= e. It appears to be a case of SIDS. There was no trauma and it will be week= s before the toxicology reports return. Considering how much press it gets, you would be amazed at how rea= lly low the SIDS rate is. Its rate has been cut in half since 1980. Current= ly about 2300 deaths in 4 million annual births in the US.

 

I did not realize this depth of s= orrow was possible. I do not mean to be a downer and I would prefer not to = clog the list with a lot of condolences as I know your thoughts are with me= . I apologize to those who do not feel this is the proper forum to share this, but since I spoke of him here, I would = be at a loss if someone innocently mentioned him down the road and I had no= t shared the news. I am beside myself. The only time I got to fill out pape= rwork that I was his "father" was on his death certificate paperwork. This has changed me and I am going to = miss my son and the old me. I had so embraced my role as father and th= e word "son". He is/was my only child.

 

Anyway, I think I may be trying to distract m= yself (which so far has failed miserably) by working on my project. Ki= nda hard to keep the tears out of the epoxy. I actually didn'= t know I could sob. I have some questions about the engine...actually Tracy's PSRU, and hope I am not = thought crass that I may be asking some soon. It is a coping mechanism= .

=1B$B!!=1B(B

Thank you for humoring a grieving father.

=1B$B!!=1B(B

All the best,

=1B$B!!=1B(B

Chris Barber

Houston


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